Many people come face-to-face with disappointing sales reports and try to imaging something that will literally make sales boom off the charts. Inevitably, they come to the question of whether sex in some form or another would give things a boost.
This is a question that many people ask, but it is the same as anything else, the right approach has to be taken in order to make the sex appealing. There are a ton of adult magazines, videos and movies that were total disasters at the box office and the book stands, venture that have gone out of business long ago. If sex is real selling magic then why would anything like this take place?
The fact is, sex by itself is just an avenue to get the answer to a problem conveyed to the people who have the problem. It is not the remedy itself. Sex, dripping with all its lustful anticipations, isn’t going to do zilch for an ad campaign if there isn’t anything of value under the hood.
Now that we have it clear that sex by itself doesn’t sell anything, we can get to how sex can sell for you! Because there is no mistake about it, under the right circumstances, it can sell extremely well.
Let’s say for example that you’re selling a cure for acne. Now, let’s focus on our target market. It would be mostly teens, and teenagers think about the opposite sex constantly. So what kind of advertising do you hit them with? Well, a great start would be a landing page with a photo of a gorgeous gal kissing a young man. You could also have photos of sexy gals climbing all over guys in scanty bathing suits with unblemished skin. But the center focus would be on the perfect skin because that’s what these kids want. Why? Because the nerd sitting across the aisle from the hot girl in history class is anxious to get her attention, but with the face he’s got it won’t happen.
A good understanding of how sex relates to a certain market is essential. For wine, it’s an attractive guy and gal sitting at a table in a classy restaurant with their preferred bottle of wine between them as they stare into one another’s eyes. Then for cars, it’s the guy and gal driving in a sleek car, looking at each other while racing down the freeway.
We could go on, but the picture is set, the product must be associated with the sexual situation that would happen in a realistic setting, done with the appearance that there is no doubt that the effectiveness of the product is working smoothly. Whether it’s the bottle of wine, the car or the treatment for acne, it must appear convincing at accomplishing the prime goal, getting the girl.
In itself, sex doesn’t sell squat. But combined with the right components, it can create a sense of magic and be absolutely fool-proof.
There are a lot of people that have never been to an adult sex store but they would like to visit one and invest in a sexual toy. There are some people that have been to this style of shop before but they are looking to revisit and invest in a new item to give them pleasure. Before you head off to one of these stores it is important to bear in mind that there is both advantages and disadvantages of purchasing that desired item online.
The online shops are in a position to offer a range of different special offers. The positive aspects of online shops is that they are able to offer better deals and there is also a range of money saving coupons that will be available. It is very uncommon to get good deals in the local high street stores and in most cases the items will cost you a considerable amount more than it would online. Another positive aspect of shopping online is that you can do it in privacy as no one else knows you are shopping in the store and no-one will know what you are purchasing.
It is very important to take time to conduct some research into the items that are available as this will mean that you do not waste your money on an item that is not actually that good. If you are going to purchase a vibrator it is very important that you know what is available so that you can purchase one that will hit the correct spot for you.
It is great to do the shopping from the comfort of your own home and this gives you complete privacy as no-one will know what you are buying and who you are. Shopping for your sex toy online also allows you to open up to your partner and express your feelings. If you make a joint decision and get a sex toy that you both like this will enable you to create a special atmosphere within the body.
Almost all of the online sex stores offer the facility to return items where as local stores in most cases will not allow this. This returns policy is another good reason for shopping online for your sex toy. It can be annoying having to take the time to return the item but this is much better than having faulty item that is really no use.
There is really one main disadvantage when it comes to purchasing your sex toys online and this is that it is hard to handle the item and see exactly how it works. One of the most important things about vibrators is the intensity that it is able to offer. Nowadays there is some video clips on the online shops and these show the working item and give you an idea of what it is like.
It is good idea to purchase a sex toy from the comfort of your home as it will enable you to check the prices and make comparisons. The online sites will also make it possible for your to read reviews which have been written by other customers.
It can be very easy to select products from online sites and it is important to take time to look at various products before making a final decision. It is important to take time to find out how all the different items work as this means that you are able to make an informed decision.
Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.
In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.
In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.
In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.
But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.
Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.
Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.
If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.
To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.
Knowing your unique needs and the needs of your sexual partner can be very enlightening. See if you can find a little bit or a lot of yourself in each of these characters – and I am sure you will recognize an ex or a present partner in one or many of these characters. This is not about accusations and excuses but rather the realities necessary to understand the developing self and current struggles. The important thing when looking at these sexual styles is not to try to figure out which sexual type you or someone is but rather to use this knowledge to improve your sexual relationships. Pay attention to how your own sexual style and behaviour makes your partner feel about themselves and the relationship because your sexual style may be hurting your relationships..
1. The Sexual Traffic Cop
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Traffic Cop is what we would call a typical control freak. They often feel that they were put on this earth to “put others in their place” and feel obligated to tell others what is ‘right’ and what is “wrong”. They tend to think their views, their families, relationships or career are what everyone should emulate and do not hesitate flaunting them in public for everyone to copy. They are often critical and demanding, always giving orders and making up rules. They can be very picky, impatient and judgmental; constantly giving advice, correcting or “mothering” others.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Traffic Cop, you will get so many directions and instructions on what he/she likes and doesn’t like. They will tell you how you should feel and respond and they may demonstrate to you how they want you to do it to them and ask you to do exactly the way they do it. You make one “wrong” move and he/she just stops and refuses to continue. The worst part is that there are so many instructions that you never seem to remember what they like or don’t like. You feel pressured, controlled and inadequate every time.
2. The Sexual Beast
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Beast usually talks loudly – and dirty. They are the sort of people who are all over the place and are either disillusioned that others really like them or do not care if they are liked or not. They have a strong need to dominate others and to be in charge of things. They may appear very controlled but are cynical and temperamental, and easily explode into anger when their authority or intelligence is challenged. They can be very vindictive and manipulative. They aren’t necessarily angry at the opposite sex it’s just that they confuse aggression and chaos with passion and spontaneity.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Beast, you are not sure whether you are being loved or devoured. His/her panting, grabbing, slapping, scratching, biting, pushing, pulling and bestial noises or “dirty talk” reduces the sex act to its very basic crude level. You are left frightened, distrustful, unsatisfied and angry but not sure why.
3. The Sexual Martyr
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Martyr lives with a victim mentality. They are always telling “poor me” stories, blaming others for everything that has happened to them. They don’t believe they are lovable or worthwhile and find it difficult to express their needs or ask for what they want. They’ve never had satisfying experiences and feel used and taken advantage of all the time.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Martyr you sense that “something” in not right but however much you ask, he/she will never tell. The only way they try to let you know what is happening is when you try to be intimate their first reaction is to move away a little or just lie there motionless. You sort of start getting resentful because you can’t read his/her mind and you feel guilty for not being able to figure out what is really going on.
4. The Sexual Procrastinator
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Procrastinator avoids doing things he/she needs to do or deal with and hates being told what to do. They ask for advice, make goals and promises but never actually get to carry them out. They are usually very rational and reasonable and take themselves seriously. They can be very talkative, impressionable, sensitive and warm but feel uncomfortable about getting close to other people and often avoid these situations.
Inside the bedroom: If you ever get to have sex with a Sexual Procrastinator consider yourself one of the most patient people on earth because by the time you get to actually have sex with this character, you’ll have heard all kinds of logical explanations as to how the mood, timing and the place is just not right. But even during sex, they will find little problems to interrupt or force you to stop. You are left feeling controlled, neglected, desperate and angry.
5. The Sexual Glutton
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Glutton is a professional at enjoying him/herself. Sexual Gluttons have low tolerance to pain or suffering and are often prone to addictive behaviours. They usually seek out adult toys to play with and when they find something that gives them pleasure; food, alcohol, drugs etc. they get completely lost in sensation oblivious of the people and everything around them.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Glutton you get the feeling you are just a toy for their pleasure. If you try to change what you are doing to give them pleasure, they motion for you to keep going, paying no attention whatsoever to your feelings. While you feel “high and dry” he/she is in his/her pleasure world. You are left feeling left out, unimportant, unloved and angry at being used.
6. The Sexual Performer
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Performer is wildly enthusiastic about everything. Everything and everyone is always fantastic, wonderful, amazing, fabulous, great, brilliant etc. When you meet this character you are almost sure he/she is the most passionate person you’ve ever met, yet you get a feeling that there is something not quite right about his/her passion – you’re probably right. Sexual Performers are people who want to get close to others, but tend to be so anxious about intimacy that they often scare others away.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Performer you get the feeling they are putting on a show; they make a lot of noise and they will do this and do that, frequently changing positions and telling you over and over how fabulous it is. They’ll even insist sex is better in front of a mirror because they want to watch themselves perform. Their “pleasure” seems so exaggerated that you are not sure whether it is sex or their performance that they like so much. You are left feeling used, mistrustful and even resentful.
7. The Sexual Idealist
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Idealist is sensitive, powerful and very intelligent. They are usually spiritual and philosophical, and are passionate about the protection of the environment, cruelty against animals and world poverty. They desperately want fairness and goodness for everyone and in everything because their past experiences have been the opposite. They may be children of divorced or emotionally isolated and dissociated parents, were adopted or lived with parents who were kept busy working. Because they have been abandoned again and again they may be deluded that their work, relationships and life are perfect and are afraid to look at life honestly because they fear that their positive outlook may collapse.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Idealist be prepared to enjoy it not once but twice: first when you hear the great and wonderful benefits of sex and again after when you hear a recounting of the just concluded magical experience. He/she will tell you how sex with you is much better than all the ones he/she’s had all his/her life and what a wonderful lover you are. You find yourself pressured to perform to similar or higher standards, just to keep up. But their “ideal” world leaves you feeling inadequate, not loved for yourself and mistrustful of their claims.
8. The Sexual Pleaser
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Pleaser is usually sweet, cheerful, enthusiastic and nice to everyone. They have a tendency to confuse love with pity, and a tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue. They are overly dependent on the approval of members of their family, spouse, friends, colleagues and even strangers. They will go to any lengths and overboard to please and when they do they will stand there silently with a “so?” look on their face. They can easily be manipulated because Sexual Pleasers have a hard time saying “no’ to requests outside and inside of the bedroom.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Pleaser, you will feel wonderful – at first – because they come across as the super lover. They ask “Do you like this or Am I pleasing you?” They even go to the lengths of apologizing if you say you did not like that. After a while you start feeling selfish and guilty. You sense their desperation and need to please and feel obligated to him/her but at the same time feel controlled by their neediness.
9. The Sexual Corpse
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Corpse is an expert at repressing his/her feelings. They appear cool, calm and collected on the outside but deep inside they are anxious, worried, and fearful. Many have suffered a lot of hurt, pain, frustration and have been abused as children or by their sexual partners. They often find it difficult to trust others and to self-disclose. They don’t easily forgive and never forget. Even if they openly don’t say it you get the feeling talking to them that they are so angry at the opposite sex.
Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Corpse, their idea of sex is you playing “sex psychic”. They never show emotion or say a word before, during or after sex. Its up to you to guess how they are feeling or if they like sex with you. Its up to you to figure out what they want – or if they even like you. If you ask them if they like something the best they can come up with is ‘Its fine”. You are left inadequate, frustrated and even angry at them.
10. The Sexual Tease
Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Tease is the kind of man or woman who looks at your partner and makes them wish they were single. They just love to advertise how “super-sexy” they – they dress and walk the part. Their whole idea of life is superficiality – clothes, status etc., and have a habit of name-dropping or mentioning their connections to famous, rich and powerful people. They are very competitive with members of the same sex and are usually very jealous and possessive people. The Sexual Tease also has problems opening up and making commitments to another person.
Inside the bedroom: Forget the bedroom – a Sexual Tease comes on very strong and aggressive, turning you on and driving you crazy with his/her act. But as soon as there is a possibility that sex might actually take place, the sexy, hot and wild image disappears. They start giving excuses or find something else to do – so that they can tease you some more. And if you actually manage to have sex with this character – you will be very disappointed. A Sexual Tease is turned on by the idea of being wild and sexy but not by the actual act of sex itself. You find yourself feeling humiliated, used, manipulated and angry.
Conclusion: I believe that there is no “right” or “wrong” way of making love. Sex is “good” when it makes both of your feel good about yourselves and about the relationship and it is ‘bad” when it leaves you unhappy and adds to your negative feelings about yourself, your partner or about relationships. The good news is that there is something you can always do to become the lover you are capable of being (listed on my website are some of the things you can immediately do). The Super Lover is in everyone of us. What you need first and foremost is deep insights into the unique, creative and ultimately mysterious being you are. Second you need an intuitive understanding of the intricate dynamics of man-woman energies. Learning specific techniques is NOT enough, you need to know the interplay between the sexes that is sufficient to evoke a deep connection and smoldering passion.